Comparing Dysfunctional Patterns

The patterns of rigid complementary, competitive symmetry and submissive symmetry are all categorized as dysfunctional patterns due to the unbalanced nature they exhibit. As with most habitual patterns attempting to break free of any one of them can be very difficult. As for which is most difficult I would have to lean towards the submissive symmetry pattern. Because both partners are habitually submissive one of them would have to force themselves to become the assertive member to break the pattern. Since most willful submission is a reflection of a person’s personality characteristic it could be extremely difficult to bring about that change. It wouldn’t be the most damaging to a relationship however, because it would ultimately help to regain balance to the relationship while still feeding into the desire of the other partner’s submissive nature. I would think the most damaging pattern to a relationship would be competitive symmetry due to the constant struggle that exists between the partners, whereas the rigid complementary pattern would potentially be the most damaging to an individual’s self-esteem.