Attraction Filters

In many ways Duck’s theory does make sense that there is a subconscious, or for some conscious, filtering system people use to qualify a potential partner. However, I do not subscribe to the idea that his theory is universal. There are many people who meet and although they may live many, many miles away from each other they are committed to keeping a long distance relationship. Technology has also increased the ability to interact long distance on a regular basis, decreasing the importance of physical proximity in Duck’s theory. Physical beauty is in the eye of the beholder but a person’s personality is the true measure of attractiveness in my opinion. I try not to judge a person before I have a chance to get to know them even if my first impression of them may not have been favorable I do try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Unfortunately, it can take time to truly get to know a person and overlooking some behaviors can be the same as ignoring warning signs. I had made this mistake with one of my ex-boyfriends. The first time I met him I did not get a great first impression. Giving him the benefit of the doubt I choose to overlook some of the behaviors I would not normally. It was a mistake I hope to never make again as it was extremely poor judgment on my part and ended very badly.